How Not to Be a Sad B*tch

We all have times when it feels like the world is against us and it seems like people are just trying to piss you off. Those times when we walk around with a RBF, so aggressive that it scares children away. Why does this happen and how do we get out of our funks? Is it the pisces in me? Is it karma? Is god trying to spite me for that one time I almost fought someone for Justin Bieber tickets in 6th grade? Whatever the cause, here are some ideas on how not to be the depressed girl in the corner at every party.

By Kennedy Woodard


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Being Sad is a part of the human condition, something we can’t avoid. It is embedded in us to want to suffer and feel down. Sometimes I find myself wallowing in a space that isn’t healthy for me mentally. I know sometimes feeling sad can feel good. But not all the time. Trying to pick yourself up from that hole can be incredibly hard. Here are some things that I have found to be the most therapeutic:

Crying in the Shower:

We have all done this before, whether it be because of a boy, or because we wanted to feel like we were  Hilary Duff in her iconic music video for Come Clean. There is a release of pressure when you allow yourself to cry. It is because you are allowing yourself to feel. You are letting go of all of the depressing thoughts that were weighing you down. It is a release that gives you a high like no other. So next time you find yourself wanting to cry, turn on your shower to the hottest setting (good for the soul and the pores), and in the words of Hilary Duff, “let the rain fall down,” and wash away all of the things holding you down.

Watching a Movie:

This one is my personal favorite because I am a huge film buff. There is nothing more thrilling than escaping from your own life for an hour or two and diving into someones else’s. Movies offer both a break from ourselves, but also a connection. You can either close your eyes and watch the first movie your mouse lands on, or whatever streaming service you are using, or you can rewatch one of your all time favorites. I think being able to empathize with someone else’s problems puts yours into perspective. Hearing stories is a great way to get out of your own head and into someone else’s.

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Go Out with People:

This is probably the hardest one because when we wallow we want to be alone and hate everyone. However, it is important that we make ourselves talk to people because it is super beneficial. Even if feels like the last thing you want to do, drag yourself and a friend or two to Zilker and get some fresh air. Sometimes simply getting out of your room can do wonders. Your friends are also able to take your mind off of the things that are making you worried or stressed. Plus, the feeling of being with others and laughing or talking is also proven to be beneficial to people’s psyche.

Whatever you are going through, it won’t be forever. It is okay to not be okay, but only for a little while. We grow and learn from the hard times we go through. It is important to know when to pick yourself up and keep going. You have too many things to accomplish and people waiting to meet you. So wallow and be sad, then cry, and make yourself some coffee (or a shot) and get back into the world.