Dating Apps: Yay or Nay?
Either you love them or you hate them, but you can’t deny their prevalence in our society. If you haven’t tried one, don’t worry! I’ve done the work for you. I went through Tinder, Bumble, AND Hinge just to see what they were all about. Stay tuned to hear about my personal conclusions and experience.
By Jennifer Meseck
I don’t know about y’all, but I always imagined my love life would be like a movie—that I’d meet a cute boy at a coffee shop, fall in love and live happily ever after. Well, I can tell you that has not yet happened for me. I’ve been single for most of my life, and personally I love being single. HOWEVER, I haven’t met anyone in person that I can see myself dating, so I thought why not take this time in your short (not really lol) single life and see what dating apps are all about.
Before this time, I had never even thought to download one. My friends all had them or have had had them and said they were super entertaining—although not particularly helpful in the dating world. I wanted to test this out for myself. I downloaded 3 different dating apps earlier this year: Tinder, Bumble and Hinge. After messing around with these apps for a couple months, I have come to a few conclusions on my electronic dating experience.
My first conclusion is that dating apps are not really my style. That is if you’re looking for a serious connection I wouldn’t really recommend them. Honestly, they made me feel more hopeless than anything else. I went in with a really open mind, not really expecting much from them. I had a lot of fun swiping in the beginning. It was nice having cute guys flirt with me and give me attention. By the end, however, I just felt bored and like they were doing more harm for me than good. Most guys just wanted to hook up which made me feel like I had to participate in hook up culture (not for me, but totally chill if you’re in to it) to get a guy. Of the guys I did go out with, none of them turned out to be my type. All in all, it just felt like a waste of my time.
Another thing I found was that, although they weren’t my style, I did make a lot of really honest connections. None of these connections ended in a relationship (obviously), but it did remind me that there are people out there similar to me. Some of these matches I now consider to be friends with me and we still talk to this day. So, real connections are possible through any of these apps—whether or not they’ll result in something more, well, that’s up in the air.
That being said, I also learned that a majority of people using these apps do not care about an honest connection. As time went on, I concluded the same about myself. Like I said, I was looking to see if relationships were possible; however, I eventually stopped when I realized that wasn’t really a thing. It began to feel like a game. I really only found myself opening the app when I was bored or wanted attention. It lost value to me. All in all, it just became something to do in my free time. I would flirt till it was apparent I was over it. There was no endgame just something to entertain me in my free time. What’s the point of that? None whatsoever. When I realized my research with dating apps had the opposite effect of what I was looking for, I decided to delete them all.
Maybe I’m just not cut out for dating apps. I know plenty of people who have had success from Hinge, Bumble, and even Tinder. A couple of my friends have dated their matches or are still seeing someone they met from one. Out of all three of the apps, I would say that Hinge was the best at actually creating a connection and for going on a real date. Bumble and Tinder both fell into the mainly hook up related domain—at least in my opinion. Overall, I’d say dating apps are great if you’re either using them with an open mind or for fun and entertainment.