How to Conquer Feeling Lonely

The loneliness epidemic is real…ever heard of it? If you haven’t, you might think it refers to actual physical loneliness. This may create an image in your head of someone who’s isolated or doesn’t get out much. This isn’t it though. What it really means by loneliness refers is something of the internal kind. It’s a feeling in your head of being alone in the world. It’s as if no one understands you as a person like you’re too complex to figure out and that no one ever will. Additionally, it can be that they don’t feel like they are close to people or are lacking meaningful connections.

By Jennifer Meseck


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Someone once told me that one in five Americans have reported rarely or never feeling close to others. Isn’t that crazy? One in five is so many people. I had no idea that that many people felt a lack of connection or meaning in their relationships. It made me feel so sad knowing this is such a pervasive problem within our society.

So… how can we combat it? There are so many things we can do to help us feel happier and closer to others. First, you can decrease the amount of time you spend on social media. I know it’s hard, but I genuinely think it is a big factor in the amount of loneliness present in our country. Since we have an option to feel more connected through technology, a lot of us tend to get addicted to that feeling. We can help ourselves feel more connected to others by decreasing time spent trying to build relationships through social media, and by spending more time growing connections in person.

We are social beings, and if we deny ourselves social relationships, we can easily drift in to loneliness. Join a club or team! Connect with others who have similar mind sets and interests as you. This can be a huge relief for people who think no one understands them or can’t even begin to. Surrounding ourselves with people like us helps us to find meaningful connections.

So many people experience loneliness. I have, but I got through it by working on my connections with others. Each week I allotted specific times where I would get out of my head and think of nothing but trying to catch up with friends. Sometimes I fell off track. That’s okay; however, each time I do, I remind myself that we are meant to have close relationships. It’s not healthy for me to deprive myself of something that I’m meant to have and is good for me.

Going out of my way to build friendships rather than relying on others to do it for me has really helped decrease my feelings of loneliness. All in all, I feel so much happier and healthier by taking control of myself. Hopefully, these work for you too!